6 Things I’ve Learned in Just 6 Months of My 20s 🤭

 Helloooo loviessss again 😂

Today is the d’day — Saturdayyyy 💃🏾💃🏾 and first of all, lemme take this moment to appreciate ALL the love and feedback I got on my last blog 🥹. Like yoh!! I’ve been shedding a few tears here and there not gonna lie 😭.

First of all, I’m sending love and big hugs to you all 🫂🤍. I’m sooo glad I’m helping some people—yoh!

Second, I think I’ve set the bar too high now and I’m afraid I’ll never be able to write anything that touching ever again 😭😂. But... I’d still like to try again though 😂. 

And I know I promised a story time but yoh! your girl is still trying to learn to not be a lazy potato and have a life other than bed and work 😭😂

The Blog Idea That Almost Didn't Happen 🤭

So, let’s get into it 💃🏾.
A friend of mine, back when I was in my “not-being-able-to-write” era, suggested this topic. I was like, "I have nothing to say about that!" 😂

He told me to write about what I’ve learned so far in my 20s. I laughed because, like??? I’ve only been here for 3 months! 😭😂 But then I thought, okay, we’re halfway through the year... so how about 6 things I’ve learned in 6 months? Hopefully, I can actually find six 😅.

1. We know who we are through lived experiences.

You know when people say, “I know myself”? Yeah, I thought I did too. I was confident about how I’d act in certain situations — especially in the dating and love scene (that whole confusing thing) 😂. But yoh!! What a lie. Mbpa, you surprise yourself — like who is this new person?

You don’t realize it at first, but the person you are daily — as a friend, as yourself — is the same person you bring into those spaces. I had built this whole “different girl” in my head, but if you’re insecure in your everyday life, you carry that with you. So maybe that’s two lessons in one 😂.

Disclaimer: Still single as a pringle here 😭😂. Maybe I dipped my big toe in, but honestly, too much for me 😭😂. Call me scared, but whatever 💃🏾😂.

2. Healing is such a very long journey.

So, guys (tell me another word to use instead of “so” 🥱), healing is the biggest journey. Like, what do you mean every day you think you’re done, then something new pops up to humble you?? Like, I am dooneee 🫨.

You’ll still find bits and pieces of broken glass you haven’t cleared yet — and it’s okayyy. But please try to remove the bigger parts before moving forward. That might take years, and that’s valid. Love yourself enough to take your time. The bits? Yeah, they come with every new door or level you unlock. Let them hurt you again if they must, but also celebrate how far you’ve come — because you’re not that same person anymore. 🩵

3. Life Isn’t Black and White — It’s Very Much Giving Grey 👀

If you know me, you know I’m that girl who loves structure. I want clarity. Plans. Names. Schedules. If I believe something? Don’t even try to argue 😭. I’ve probably stayed up nights building that belief brick by brick. So don’t come here with your hammer please 😂.

But guess what I’ve discovered?
Life is mostly grey.

It’s made of those compromises you never thought you’d consider, those blind eyes you turn to survive, and that grace you give yourself when you don’t follow through on something you promised. It’s messy, unpredictable, and unstructured... and that’s okay too 🥹.

4. You need a place that pours into you.

Yeah yeah, we’ve all seen this on Instagram reels or Pinterest quotes — but lemme tell you, it’s TRUE.

Have you ever given so much — time, love, energy — that you start feeling like you have nothing left? Yeah. Been there 🥹. It’s important to find a place where you are poured into. Where when you complain, someone actually listens. They might not fix it — but just having that safe space to land? That’s gold.(Thank you to my friends🥹🫂)

And the bestest place I’ve found so far? God. 🥹 I’m telling you, He’s a loving Father. Umva, please get a God in your life — 10/10 recommendation.

5. Money doesn’t buy happiness, but it definitely buys breathing room 😩

Listen… adulthood is slowly showing me (okay, maybe even aggressively reminding me 😭) that yeah, love is cute and deep talks are great, but money??? Money is therapy. Money is peace. Money is options. Money is skincare and soft mornings.

I used to think caring too much about money meant you were materialistic or something, but nah. Learn about it. Ask about it. Respect it. Budget your 500 RWF and give it a mission. You don’t need to be rich, but you need to be wise.

Money affects everything, even your mental health sometimes — so don’t leave your financial health on vibes and prayers alone. Study. Save. Give. Invest. Even just start by understanding what your priorities are. It’s not about greed — it’s about freedom. 😮‍💨💸(still learning😭😂)

6. Your journey won’t look like anyone else’s — and that’s not a flaw, it’s a signature 🖊️✨

I used to compare everything 😭 — people’s careers, their peace, their friend groups, even their silence (like, wow, they’re so mysterious; look at me, I’m too loud 😭😂). But hear me: you’re not behind, you’re just being built. Your story is not supposed to be like theirs. It’s supposed to be like yours. Unique, weird, soft, strong, delayed, early, quiet, LOUD — whatever.

We’re all on different pages, in different books, and that’s not a failure. That’s a signature. Stop comparing timelines. Compare growth. Compare peace. And most of all, keep going.

Final Thoughts ✨

And that’s it y’all 😭💃🏾.
Thank you for coming to my little blog therapy session again 😂.

You’ve made it to the end so let me reward you with a bigggg hug and a prayer of peace and purpose for your life 🫂🤍.
You are not alone. You are growing. And you're doing better than you think.

If anything resonated with you, or if you’ve got your own lesson from the past 6 months — drop it in the comments 🥹📝.
I'd seriously love to read what you’re learning and experiencing this year too 🫶🏾

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Till next time my lovies 💋
Your soft and chaotic fav
— Isimbi