Staying True to Yourself: Making Decisions Without Regret

 

Staying True to Yourself & Not Regretting Decisions

Hellooooo guyzzz!! 😂 It’s finally Saturday, and I am sooo excited to start posting on my blog! 🎉 The only problem? I have no idea how to start. 💀

I haven’t read a lot of blogs, and the ones I have read? Meh, not my style. So guess what? We’re freestyling this thing! 😂 Stay tuned.

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A 35-Year-Old Made Me Think 🤯

So this week, I was talking to this guy—he’s like 35+ years old—and he told me something that shook me. He said:

"It hasn’t even been two years since I actually started paying attention to what I want."

I was like huh?? 🤨 You mean to tell me that a whole grown man just started making decisions for himself?!

Turns out, for most of his life, he had been following the crowd—doing things because everyone else was doing them. That blew my mind. Because if someone that age was just now figuring this out, then I must be doing something right by learning this lesson early!

That got me thinking…

Staying true to yourself = No regrets.

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A Random Novel & My Aunt’s Advice

When I was 14, I read this book (don’t ask me which one; my memory is failing me 😭), and one character said something that stuck:

"I never regret my decisions. Even if they turn out bad later, I know I enjoyed myself in that moment. If consequences come, I’ll deal with them—without guilt."

At the time, I didn’t think much of it. But looking back, that mindset makes so much sense.

Fast forward to lockdown, and I had a deep conversation with my aunt. Now, when I say she had really lived life, I don’t mean she was old—she was actually in her mid-20s. But by then, she had done it all. The partying. The socializing. The “I have 500 friends” phase.

And guess what? She was lonely.

She told me:

“ Please stay true to yourself. If you don’t want to do something, don’t do it. You’ll only regret it later.”

At the time, I was like "hmm okay", but I didn’t fully get it. Then after sometime everything clicked.

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The Lockdown Era: Saying BYE to What Doesn’t Align 👋

If you were a teenager in Kigali with a phone during lockdown, ehhh banange… you KNOW the chaos. 😂 Those random WhatsApp groups? Strangers sliding into DMs? The drama?

That’s when I started truly listening to myself:

• Don’t like your vibe? Byeee. 👋

• Not the boyfriend I want? Byeee. (Yes, I was seriously looking for one at the time sha! 😂)

Even in small things, I made a rule for myself:

If it makes me happy and aligns with my values, I won’t regret it.

And most importantly, I refuse to bend my values just to fit in. If my heart, values, and principles don’t align with something, that’s all the explanation I need.

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Do I Have It All Figured Out? NOPE.

Now, let’s be real—I wish I could say that from that moment on, I never followed the crowd again. That I always make the best decisions. But that would be a lie.

I still catch myself doing things just because everyone else is doing them. I still doubt myself sometimes. But the difference is, now I try my best. I remind myself of the stories that shaped me—my aunt’s advice, that book I read,and now the 35-year-old guy’s experience. And little by little, I choose me more often.

Some days I get it right, some days I don’t. But at least now, I’m aware. And that’s something.

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The Best Decision-Making Tool? FAITH.

One thing that makes staying true to yourself even easier? JESUS. When you add Jesus, the Holy Spirit, and faith into the mix, it’s game over. You get the best guidance for making decisions.

“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.”
—Psalms 119:105 (NKJV)

The Holy Spirit WILL nudge you when something isn’t right. Trust that.

Now, Over to You! 👀💬

If you made it this far—THANK YOU! ❤️ I appreciate you, but God loves you more! 🫂

💬 What part of this post hit home for you?
💬 Have you ever struggled with staying true to yourself? How did you deal with it?

Drop a comment! Let’s talk. 🤗✨

Actually, you know what? You guys are in my head too much now. 😭 I feel like I just spilled my whole brain on this post. BYE! 😂✌️