A letter to my daughter 🥹❤️

 Hey my love 😍,

How are you doing? How are your 20s treating you? It feels like decades since I was that age, huh? I got inspired by someone to write this and I thought, why not? Do I know if I’ll ever have a daughter? I don’t know. But maybe this letter will find someone’s daughter  or even my daughter from another mother 😂.

But secretly… I have faith that you exist.

It’s a few days before my 21st birthday 🎉 yay! I feel a little grown, but I also feel so young. And girl… I really want to give you some tea from my first year in my 20s 😭

Please grab your fuzzy socks, get comfortable, and I hope you like hot chocolate like your mom, right? Because I have a lot to tell you.

I want you to read this one day and realize that mommy is human. I know I can be strict as hell 😂 but I hope I’m even more loving.

First of all… what a year.

(Sigh.)

I don’t even know where to start.

Are you working right now? No pressure, I promise. I’m guessing you’re in school — and yes, you have to attend those 😭 I know it might not make sense to you why you should sit in class when you could be making money instead. I get it.

But I also know you love a challenge.

Apply yourself.
Be educated for real.
And if one day you decide school isn’t your path, I hope you’ve thought deeply about it — not just emotionally.

As I write this, I’m not even in school yet. I hope to be soon though, so maybe in the next letter I’ll be crying about assignments 😭 But I am working. Or at least I say I am 😂

You’ve probably heard my stories about how I went to a school I hated, yet somehow it shaped me and helped me in the long run. Life is funny like that.

Let me tell you something about work.

You will sit in meetings where you feel like you don’t belong there. Like everyone else is smarter. Like you’re too young. Too small. Not experienced enough.

Sit there anyway.
Hold your head high.
Smile.
Do your job.

You will work somewhere and feel like you’re not growing. That’s okay.

Leave.

Mommy is rich anyway 😌

You might be in an environment that drains you, even if it looks good on paper. Don’t stay just because it sounds impressive. It can drain you to the point where you don’t want to leave your bed for weeks.

And when that happens, it doesn’t mean you’re lazy.

It means something isn’t aligned.

Let go.

Take random jobs. Try things. Stretch your mind. You are capable of more than you think.

And one more thing — older men or workmates might approach you with nonsense. My love, it is okay to tell them off. The world does not reward women for being overly nice.

Stand up for yourself.

In fact, collect evidence — and we are going to court 😭

Now listen.

You will want to experience things I might have once said no to. I know I tried to explain my reasons and you didn’t understand at the time. But since you’re older, bring your wishes to me.

Let’s talk about them like best friends — just best friends where one is slightly older. Emphasis on slightly 😂

When you go to your first club, can I drop you off and pick you up? Please?

Yes, we are a Christian household. But that doesn’t mean we’re not living in the world. Go have fun. Dance like no one is watching. Scream the bad lyrics at the top of your lungs. Laugh loudly. Come home exhausted from having the time of your life.

Just one condition —

Stay sober.

Not only because of Proverbs 23:30–35, but because not everyone in those spaces has good intentions. Be aware. But don’t let fear stop you from living.

These are your years to live.

Just don’t live in tomorrow’s grief.
I already did that for you.

Now about boys…

You will meet them. Some your age. Some slightly older.

Will they break your heart? Yes.
Will some make you question your worth? Maybe.
Will they break your trust? Oh, big time.

But hear me clearly —

You are worth more than temporary attention.

Some lessons in life cannot be skipped. You just have to go through them. Even if your heartbreak seems small to others, it is big to you. And that matters.

If it gets too heavy, check my handbags. There are chocolates hidden in there 🤭 And maybe some chocolate ice cream in the fridge that you’re normally not allowed to touch — but for now, you are 😂 because heartbreak is real.

It might feel like you gave pieces of yourself away. Like you don’t know who you are anymore.

But God restores.

And remember this —

They only had access to  V1.0.0 of you.

They won’t have access to the woman you are becoming 🥹

And please… use the block button.

It will save you from so much unnecessary drama 😂

There will be days when you question everything. Your path. Your dreams. The people around you. Whether you’re the main character in your own life.

If your life were a movie, would you be screaming at yourself to do better?

All those questions will circle your mind.

You might grow quieter. You might stop laughing the same way. You might start keeping your thoughts to yourself because they feel like the only safe place. You might read book after book just to escape reality.

And I might not notice everything.

I’m human too.

But there is One who notices.

Always.

God.

There are things I won’t be able to carry for you. But He can. He will wipe your tears. Ask Him for joy — He gives it endlessly. When you feel stuck, He creates a way.

He loves you more than I ever could — and you know I love you deeply.

This same God has carried me through years of confusion, growth, doubt, and hope. He will carry you too. I pray for you. The Holy Spirit  intercedes for you daily, without ceasing.

Hold onto God. He performs miracles.

And if I ever make mistakes — forgive me.

This is my first time being here too not an excuse but a reason.

Maybe next time, I’ll even have a name for you 😂 

But until then…

I’m praying for you.

For the girl you are.
For the woman you’re becoming.
For the heartbreaks I won’t be able to prevent.
For the dreams I hope you chase bravely.

And if you ever read this and I’m not in the room with you…

I hope you can still hear my voice in these words.

I hope you remember that before you even existed in this world,
you were loved.
You were prayed for.
You were believed in.

And no matter how old you get…
no matter how strong you become…

You will always be
my baby.

Forever and always 🤍 

bizou bizou 😘

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